POSITIVE THINKING

I think it wise for me to tell you that I am moving on Saturday, from San Diego to Imperial Beach via Chula Vista. So my posts might be a bit erratic at best for the next few days. However, I did want to write on the subject of positive thinking before things get chaotic - no matter how organized you are - it's still a chaotic time when you move. Fortunately I don't have a lot of "stuff" so that's very good!

There is no doubt that life does get burdensome at times. Sometimes downright nasty. We all have up times and down times. But it's my experience that the more I get in line with the down times and start thinking in a negative way, sure enough the Universe will respond to my negative thoughts and subsequent feelings. The Universe only knows to say Yes, Yes, Yes to anything we ask of it. And so, if we say for instance "I have no money", or "Nothing ever works out for me"-  then we will lose what money we do have and nothing will work out for us. That creates more negative thoughts and more negative feelings - and along comes even more negative experiences and people.

So the best thing to do to stop the negativity is to start thinking about what it is you DO want. Even declaring it before you have it. "I have plenty of money and it flows easily and effortlessly to me" "I am so fortunate because everyhing is going my way". And the Universe says yes, yes, yes to those statements and feelings and life gets better.

But it's important to realize that being negative is the easy road. It's courageous to find the good in what you have or to see opportunities when things don't look good to your eyes. It's common for us to say that some people just seem to have better luck than we do. But if you drill down a bit more deeply, you will see that very often these "lucky" people have positioned themselves for good fortune by having an open flexible mind and thinking about what they DO want instead of what they DON'T want.

So how to get a flexible mind? Maybe start by considering that all situations have several perspectives. This requires a certain self-discipline which is hard to cultivate. But you can do it. If you do make the mental effort to have a more flexible mind, you will progress. You will be moving forward. It's like a ship in the ocean, as it gathers speed and moves through the water, that movement creates a momentum, and it would take an enormous effort for it to even change direction, let alone stop. That's what happens to us when we move forward to progress. We create a positive momentum that feels great.

There is nothing magical about doing this. It takes hard work and mental discipline, which can be exhausting. But the benefits and the happier life you live will be your reward.

I will be posting again very soon. Definitely after I move and settle down in my new surroundings. One day I'll write about the entire moving process - there's a lot involved - letting go - mourning - a lot to discuss at a later date.

Remember to be Fun Fit & Fabulous!

Some information about Paulina!

I haven't spoken very much about who I am, what I want - my goals and aspirations - and what the future holds for me. So I decided to change that situation and give you some insight into the interesting person that Paulina is!

You already know how much I love fashion, cosmetics and girly things. I also have a more serious side, and as much as I love people - because I am basically a people person, I also enjoy solitude and to be by myself, reading, writing or thinking. I enjoy my own company and get many insights into my own pysche when I slow my breathing, be in the moment and empty my mind. I can't do that for a long time, but it's getting longer and I appreciate the progress. As AA says, we seek progress not perfection. Very wise saying.

I'm thinking lately about what I want to do next. I always have the longing to be in relationship with a wonderful man - but even if that were to happen I would still want something special for me to do every day. I love working, not only for the money you earn, but also the connection with the same group of people and having something exciting to wake up to each morning. I abhor boredom. I will not be boring to myself, and certainly not for you. I have to make good decisions though, and do what it is I enjoy to ward off the boredom and the hum-drum of life. My attention span is sometimes short, and I lose interest quickly if I'm not fully engaged. The other excuse I'll shamefully use is that I'm an Aquarius, a solid Aquarius except in the Love area - there and only there I'm Pisces. All the other areas I'm Aquarius.

I am going to design a few pieces of absolutely fabulous pieces of clothing for the older woman. Perhaps I'll create something online - an online boutique perhaps - for custom-designed clothing for senior women in Southern California.

I love shopping, clothing, fashion, beauty on every level, perfume, pretty little nick-nacks, unique one-of-a-kind things, silk, cotton and delicious rayon - oh! how beautifully rayon drapes the body!, cosmetics, shoes, bags, in fact, all fashion - I love all of it because it gives you confidence and enhances all that you are.

I will write more about my journey as we go along and would love to hear about yours. I will be developing a dynamic future for myself and will share with you how that goes. Remember, be the very best you can be at every age! Fun, Fit, and Fabulous - that's us!

Makeup for the Senior Woman

There is no way around it, as you get older you have to change the makeup you use to something much lighter. You still want definition but it's going to look more subtle. It never ceases to amaze me how a little bit of mascara and a few other tools can produce a glow that is quite lovely.

Whether you have dry, normal or oily skin, a richer mixture of a basic skin cream will help your skin stay moist and pliable.  Read all of the labels of the creams in the drug stores, as well as in department stores like Macy's and Nordstrom. Many of those counters have samples that you can take home and try out. If you like a particular cream you should head back to the store and buy it. Keeping your skin soft and pliable is part of taking care of yourself. I've found that Estee Lauder and Shiseido have skin creams that work very well for the mature skin.

If you are not used to wearing a foundation I definitely recommend you have a makeover in one of the department stores. Go to Sephora or Nordstrom. Foundation is tricky - you have to consider colour and viscosity and a host of other things. If you know what you are doing then by all means go to your fave place for your foundation. But don't use what you have always used, when your skin was younger. Time to move up and have some fun with the journey!

The deliciousness of the colours in makeup refers to your eyes, cheeks and lips. First of all let's look at makeup to enhance the eyes. I definitely recommend a very thin black eyeline on the top eyelid, as close to the lashes as possible. This looks fabulous. It takes a lot of practice to get the line thin; I recommend you use a pencil for this job. And always keep a pencil sharpener close. And sharpen your pencils often! You get a much softer line and it's easier to get the line across the entire lid. After you "love the line", with your eyeshadow brush, select a very subtle pale pink colour of eyeshadow and sweep it over the entire top lid. You could put a slightly deeper colour of eyeshadow across the bone just above the eyelid, but if this sounds foreign to you I would keep it as simple as possible and go now to using some mascara. Just a little dab - you don't need a lot. I would choose black. It shows up a bit more. I LOVE mascara - did you ever hear the song from La Cage Aux Folles - the Bird Cage - when the entertainer in the movie sang about when he felt very down and the day was dull - he put on some mascara and suddenly life was fabulous again? I LOVE that song.

I would use a really light shade of blusher - on a mature skin use cream blush! A really pretty shade of pink. Looking in the mirror, hold your head down slightly and put a line of blush just below that bone that you can feel in your cheek. Then gently massage the blush into your skin using light upward strokes. Lovely!

Now the lips. A lip liner is very useful because mature lips are such that the lipstick you apply can bleed into the tiny lines around the lips and look awful. Use a lip liner that is as close to the pink lipstick you choose and apply both. The lip liner will prevent the lipstick bleeding into the lines around your mouth. Make sure your lipstick is full of lovely emollients so that the lipstick can actually feed your lips with moisture. My favorite lipstick is by Chanel. Beatiful colours, and so rich with moisture producing emollients. Yum. 

Now look in the mirror. Do you look fabulous? I bet you do. Even a tiny bit of colour enhances our features, and when our makeup is applied carefully with some thought it can give us a lift like nothing else can. Fabulous! The idea is to look as natural as possible and makeup can help us look that way!

There are a zillion other ways to use makeup - what I have described above is the very basic look for every day. I will share tips and information of what kinds of makeup to use when you go out or for special occasions at a later date.

I am available to help and advise you on a one-to-one basis with your makeup, clothing choices as well as other life issues. I will shop for you and have some clothes ready for your body type and the colours that will make you look fabulous. I charge an hourly fee and we can negotiate that at the appropriate time. It is my very great honour to be writing this blog for you and remember - Be Fun Fit & Fabulous!

FUN FIT & FABULOUS - #3 FABULOUS

I love the word Fabulous. I use it a lot and have been thinking about what it means to me, and why I use it as part of my business name.

I am so fond of saying to my family and friends - be fabulous darling - be fabulous! I think that is the best piece of advice I could give and says a lot of how I value those incredible people.

Fabulous conjures up all sorts of different, delicious words: incredible, wonderful, marvellous, and my fave - wait for it - ASTONISHING. Being fabulous means first of all that you feel confident and ready for anything that comes your way. You wear bright beautful colours, you paid attention to what kind of clothes look best on your body, your light makeup and hair look amazing - and this emanates from you so easily. You just cannot fail in this state of being. People are attracted to you naturally.

For many of us - our reaction the above words sound like this "what in hell is she talking about. It's as much as I can do to get out of bed in the morning"  I have been there. I can remember just a few months ago when I could hardly turn over in bed I was so lacking in energy and motivation.

But I do believe for most of us, it is possible to take the steps to get back to a balanced state of mind. Even if you feel you are in the belly of the whale and you are being pitched from pillar to post - rough seas do settle down and even if you aren't yet quite out of the whale's belly - you can glimpse the daylight and the shore. You're in calmer waters. Where you can think and learn and wonder.

So being fabulous means you use everything at your fingertips to achieve what it is you want. You honour the process of getting to that place, and you notice, notice, notice, and write in your exercise book. No matter what your present position, with courage that can be nurtured and with clarity of purpose that you CAN achieve, you come to a place of joy and live life to its fullest. That's what you really want. You know what I'm talking about and you know that it's true.

Taking pleasure in ordinary things is an art. Look at the moon and marvel at its beauty. Or a tree as you come of the freeway and wait for a light to turn green. That tree is always there, the breeze moving through it, the sun shining on its leaves - and it takes your breath away.

So this what Being Fabulous means to me. I'll be writing more about these attributes as time goes on. I'm having the best fun with this blog, nd I sincerely hope you are enjoying reading them.

Do something today to be fabulous and tell me about it!

FUN FIT & FABULOUS - #2 FIT

In our quest to learn the meaning of the words that describe me and my business, we have come to the word FIT. This morning I am going to write about what that word means for me and my business.The dictionary has many meanings of the word FIT. The one I like best, and that resonates in my own heart is "Sound Physically and Mentally, Healthy"

What that means with respect to being mentally sound is to be internally balanced. That's what you start with. If that state seems strange to you, there are things you can do to achieve it. Of course, a lot can depend on where you are with regards to life and living - what challenges you face - what kind of life you are living - and a host of other situations that either bring you down or lift you up. The point is, if you haven't begun to do it yourself, begin to question the actions and decisions you make and to notice the results of those actions.  That's all you do at first. Just notice. This can go on for a short or long time. My bet is that it will take a long time. This is your life's journey. Life is so short and the idea is to make it as pleasurable as possible. The man on the next treadmill to me yesterday, at the gym, told me he always put duty before pleasure. I immediately responded with compassioon, (I felt so sad for him!) and said oh but you must have  pleasure in life. I don't think he was with me on that though! Poor Dove.

I would advise looking at this as a Life's Adventure. I also think getting a special exercise book and writing about this journey would be extremely helpful. It really doesn't matter where you are in your life's journey, keeping a journal of how you are feeling is a really great tool to progress and and in so doing experience life more deeply.

Physical soundness means that you do everything you can possibly do to nurture and care for your body using all of the resources at your fingertips. Read and research about your body. It's an amazing machine - fantastic - there are no words to describe my reverence for the human body. For instance, when I learned what has to happen in order for a muscle to move - when we lift a weight or lift a child in our arms - I knew without a shadow of doubt that the Energy that Creates Worlds made it. It could NOT have "just happened" Go online and research the Sliding Filament Theory. It might inspire you as it inspired me.

So physical health means that you move your body, every day. The over 50 group no longer have a choice. If you want to live a long life being healthy you are going to have to exercise. The idea is to start slowly - once or twice a week for as long as it takes to create a habit. Habits take a long time to form. Think of the habit of brushing your teeth - you wouldn't think of not doing it, you get up in the morning and do it - don't talk about - it's just done. That's where exercise belongs in your life.

I will be writing a lot more about all sorts of subjects, including health & fitness so I hope you will come back to be with me. Today is still at the very beginning of what could be the most interesting part of your life. Just remember, as you get older it's imperative that you have FUN, that you do what's necessary to be FIT, and that you are FABULOUS, darling!

FUN FIT & FABULOUS #1 FUN

The name of my blog and my business is Fun Fit & Fabulous. I woke up this morning thinking about this name and how much I love it because it describes me and what I stand for. Today let's talk about FUN, and what my thoughts are about this wonderful attribute. There are many people who have challenges in life, all kinds of challenges that can take them down to a dreadfully miserable place. I acknowledge that. Others have financial worries and are limited in what they can do and have. But I believe that many situations can improve when you have someone like me to help you see unseen things about youself, and to reveal the amazingly interesting person you are. We all have tremendous strengths. Everyone of us. We also have several weaknesses. Can't avoid that because we are far from perfect! How boring perfection would be! In spite of all the challenges I just discussed, it IS possible to be happy and have FUN at the same time you have problems that you have to solve. It's always important to think thoughts about what you want, not what you don't want. And here's another piece of advice that was given to me and I love it - honour the process. What that means to me is that some days I don't feel at the top of my game, and that's OK. I honour it anyway. I know that it will pass, and tomorrow will be better. Sometimes things are such that you have to live one minute at a time. Stay in the moment. Do the next thing on the list. And remember who you are! You are a fun-loving beautiful human being who was born to shine and be everything you were born to be! Don't you forget that. Sometimes just connecting with another human being, smiling at someone even though you don't feel like it helps raise your spirits. I hope you have found some value in this blog. Today I talked about FUN. The next blog will explain what FIT means to me. This is an incredibly exciting time we live in and I want you all to be the very best you can be! I'm there for you!

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Ok - here we go!

This is my very first blog. I have many ideas and will make this a fun experience for all who read my blog. I'm primarily interested in sharing information with other female seniors on all sorts of subjects. You will find information about fashion and makeup for the over 50 group, and since I'm trained as a personal trainer information about health & fitness for seniors. I see so many very pretty senior women who are not making the very best of themselves and some have even given up caring about how they look because they feel that time has passed them by, or they can't be bothered to do what's necessary to make themselves attractive. So it's for those women that I started this blog. I have a wealth of information and knowledge about so many things - so don't be suprised if I write about subjects not usually written for older women. I believe that we should always be the best we can be at whatever age we are. That should be the goal. I believe that we are still vital, and wise and strong and perhaps understand the order of things, including understanding us in relation to our men, that we never knew when we were young. There are so many things that we have now that we should be grateful for. Well, this is it for now. I shall be writing again in the next day or two - subject TBD.